Dares for couples, from soft to spicy

How to use these dares

Read through them on your own first, then choose together. A few ways to play:

• Pick in private. Each of you notes the dares that tempt you without showing the other, then you compare and keep only the ones you both chose. It’s the idea behind the Yes, No, Maybe list, and nobody has to turn anything down out loud.
• A jar or a deck. Write the dares you both chose on slips of paper or blank cards, and draw one a week. Knowing one is coming, but not which, is half the fun.
• Take turns. Alternate who picks the next dare, so each of you gets to steer.
• Make it truth or dare. Whoever passes on a dare answers a truth instead: a question the other has always wanted to ask.
• Work your way down. The sections go from soft to spicy, and starting at the top makes the later ones feel like the next step rather than a leap.

One bit of practical sense: plan the bigger dares a day or two ahead. Most of them are better with some anticipation anyway.

Sweet dares to start with

Gentle ones to warm up with: nothing you’d blush to tell a friend about, but each one a night you’ll remember.

The first date, again

Go back to where you had your first date, or the closest thing to it, and order what you ordered then. Each of you brings one detail from that night the other has forgotten, and saves it for the second drink.

Dinner about the future

Cook dinner together, and for the whole meal you may only talk about what’s ahead: places you want to see, things you want to try, who you’ll be in ten years. Whoever drifts into talk about work does the dishes.

Three songs in the kitchen

One of you secretly slips three songs into whatever’s playing tonight. When the first one starts, you both drop what you’re doing and dance, in the kitchen, in socks, until the third one ends.

Notes in hiding

In the morning, one of you hides five short notes where the other will find them during the day: a coat pocket, a book, the sun visor in the car. Each one says something you’ve never told them out loud, and neither of you mentions them until bedtime.

A blanket and the brightest star

After dark, take a blanket somewhere you can see the sky: a hill, a beach, the back garden. Find the brightest star, and take turns telling each other something you wanted to say the first time you met.

Breakfast with a plan

On a morning they don’t expect it, one of you brings the other breakfast in bed, with a handwritten plan for the day folded on the tray. The one in bed has to agree to all of it before they unfold it.

Flirty dares

Teasing that starts long before the evening, at home, at work or across a crowded room.

The countdown

From the morning on, one of you texts the other every couple of hours, counting down to the evening and hinting a little more each time at what’s waiting. The other may answer with one word only. By the time you’re home, you’ve both thought about little else all day.

Dressed by you

One of you lays out what the other wears tonight, shoes, jewelry and everything underneath, and the other puts it on without a word of protest. Then you go out somewhere you’ll both be seen, and the one who chose gets to admire their work all evening.

Strangers in a gallery

Go to a museum or a gallery and split up at the door. Find each other inside and flirt as if you’d just noticed a stranger, using only what hangs on the walls as an opening line. It’s the gentlest kind of roleplay.

The ten-minute kiss

Set a timer for ten minutes and kiss, only kiss, until it rings. Hands stay above the shoulders, and nobody checks the time. It sounds easy until minute six.

The signal at the table

Before a dinner with friends, agree on a signal: a touch of the earlobe, a word slipped into conversation. Each time one of you gives it, the other has to find a reason to come over and touch them, without anyone at the table noticing.

The compliment duel

Over dinner, take turns paying each other compliments, each one more specific than the last, with no repeats and nothing generic. The first one to blush, laugh or run out picks tomorrow’s dare.

Sensual dares for a slow evening

Slow evenings at home, with the phones in another room and nowhere else to be.

Checked in at home

Turn your home into a hotel for one night: fresh sheets, folded towels, a card on the pillow. One of you checks the other in at the front door, and nobody touches a chore until checkout.

The blindfolded evening

One of you puts on a blindfold the moment dinner is served and keeps it on until the end of the night. The other feeds them, leads them by the hand and decides what happens next, announcing nothing in advance. A first taste of sensory play.

One song, one piece

One of you undresses the other, one piece of clothing per song, never faster. Choose the playlist together beforehand, and make sure it’s long enough.

Words on your skin

One of you closes their eyes while the other writes three words on their skin with a fingertip, slowly, one letter at a time. For every wrong guess, the writer picks a new place to start over.

Hands behind your back

For a whole evening, one of you keeps their hands behind their back, no touching allowed, while the other does as they please. The rule ends only when the one in charge says so.

A bath for two

Run a bath big enough for both of you, light the room with candles only, and leave the phones somewhere else. You can talk about anything at all except the day you’ve had.

Spicy dares

Turning up the heat: dares with a secret, a rule or an audience of one.

Two envelopes

In the morning, each of you hands the other a sealed envelope with one instruction for the evening, to be opened at six. Neither of you knows what the other’s says: one might read “make me wait for it”, the other “don’t let me finish dessert”. Both have to be carried out before midnight.

Not before midnight

From the moment you’re both home, you may tease each other as much as you like, but nothing more happens before midnight. Whoever gives in first owes the other a dare of their choosing. Welcome to tease and denial.

The private show

One of you picks a song and gives the other a private dance in the living room, lights low. The audience stays seated, both hands on the armrests, until the song ends. Next time, swap the chair.

Nothing underneath

One of you goes out to dinner with nothing on under their clothes, and only the two of you know. The other may mention it once, quietly, at the moment it will cause the most trouble. It’s where exhibitionism often begins.

A silk scarf

One of you ties the other’s wrists with a silk scarf, loosely enough to slip out of, and then takes their time. The one tied up may ask for nothing, only wait and see.

The photo shoot

One of you is the photographer, the other the model, and the shoot starts fully dressed. Every ten pictures, the photographer may ask for one thing to change. Keep the results on one phone, or delete them together at the end.

Bold dares that take nerve

Out in the world, all day long, or a step deeper into a theme you both already enjoy.

Meet me at the hotel bar

One of you books a hotel room and texts the other only the name of the bar downstairs and a time. You meet as strangers, and only one of you knows there’s a room key in their pocket. Roleplay with a door at the end of it.

The remote at dinner

One of you wears a small remote-controlled toy out to dinner, and the other keeps the remote in their pocket all evening. The conversation has to carry on as if nothing were happening. One of the playful sides of sex toys.

A day of house rules

For one whole day, from breakfast to bedtime, one of you makes the rules: what the other wears, where they sit, when they may speak. The other’s only answer is “yes”, and next weekend you can swap. A day of dominance and submission.

The ledger

All week, one of you keeps a little notebook of the other’s misdeeds: late home, the last biscuit, the cheeky remark. On Saturday night the ledger is settled, read out loud, one spank per line. Playful discipline is one of the friendliest doors into BDSM.

The midnight swim

Find a lake or a quiet beach after dark and swim naked together, with your clothes in a heap on the shore. Pick somewhere you won’t be seen, and bring one big towel for two.

Only watching

Spend an evening at a bar or a party where couples go to meet other couples, and agree beforehand that tonight you only watch and talk. On the way home, each of you says one thing you noticed and one you liked. A first look at swinging, with nothing to decide tonight.

Why a game beats a list

A list like this one is a good start, but it has two problems. It shows you everything at once, so you still have to say out loud which dares you want, and for most couples that’s the hardest part. And it has no memory: the twelfth dare doesn’t know whether you loved the third.

A Little Bit of Corruption is a game built to fix both. Each of you likes dares in private, on your own phone, and a dare unlocks only when both of you have liked it. If only one of you does, the other never finds out.

Every dare you complete opens the next ones, so the game builds step by step on what you already enjoy, along themes from roleplay to swinging. A dare can have a part written for each of you, so one of you can hold a surprise the other only discovers on the night.

You can play it tonight, or help write the dares.

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